So you dated so many men,even in Los Angeles...and you must be pretty familiar with hookups scenes and ONSs.
Did they ever feel lonely after that?
Do you ever regret it?
I mean I am not judging you at all.
I am a 21 year old male and all new to this and thought to myself one day that before I get married,which is far away in the future,I should experience life and express my sexuality on my terms.
I made up my mind that I should be the one to live my life how I want and not what is "expected" of me.
Also what is attractive to women in men on Tinder??
The reason I am asking this to you is because you use it regularly and would know much better than those men who give "dating advice" but never seen them do the stuff.
Thanks so much for getting in touch, Yash. I definitely felt lonely after dating a lot. I am familiar with hookups and ONSs. While I found them to be really fun at first, they got very old for me.
I will be writing about this soon, so I'll let you know. I wouldn't say I ever regretted anything I did--not morally speaking, at least. But I did sometimes regret having a bad experience with someone. But there's really nothing I could do about that.
Getting out there and having experiences regardless if they're good or bad is about taking risks. You have to take risks to date people. You have to accept that not everyone you meet is going to be a great person--or great for you. That's just life. Sometimes you may feel regret about an experience, but just embrace it. It happened for a reason: to make you grow.
I definitely think you should experience yourself and your sexuality on your own terms. As a guy, you should always be honest with women though. Don't ever lead a woman on, who thinks you want something more, but you just want sex. There's nothing wrong with only being in it for the sex. Just make sure everyone is on the same page about that.
I always found a big smile was attractive to me in a man. I wanted to make sure a guy was happy. Good hygiene is also really important. A man who's stylish and himself is also attractive. But what is "being yourself." It takes time to figure out who we are, and balls to be different. Give yourself the time and space to figure yourself out and don't beat yourself up for making mistakes. You will, so just accept your flawless self as you are. Women will love you for that.
First of all thanks a lot Ms.Elle for your time and warm words.🙂
Now,you rightly said about taking risks.
I'll have to wear my heart on my sleeve and be vulnerable to make things happen.
Regarding my sexuality,yes,I do think of doing it on my own terms.
Maybe if I get a girlfriend soon then of course sexually exploring each other would be good.
But of course that shouldn't be the basis of my relationship.
I think that you live in NYC(maybe I read that on your Medium I guess) and NYC,as is the capital of the world,is synonymous with Tinder style dating.
I do want to live my sexual desires whenever I visit NYC once.
If you don't mind me asking,have you ever had an FWB arrangement!?
I am asking you this because I cannot write that on my bio right?
It just happens..because friends first,fuck buddies second.
.
Also,before I leave Ms.Elle I wanted to share with you that no one knows.
This is extremely personal.
Well not now.
I have that innate desire of mentally and sexually satisfying women who are unhappy in their lives/relationships(NO not make them cheat) etc etc
How do I make them comfortable?
I want them to have a good time with me...not just a date but being vulnerable and reveal her beautiful soul...without any shame/guilt/"what will he think" etc.
Seeing that happiness on a woman's face would feel so good.
That is what I want to do as of now.
Maybe it sounds stupid but this is what I am thinking right now.
Honestly it seems like you are not only an attention Wh*re, but also just a regular wh*re. Your man wasn’t an ATM.
Hello Ms.Elle.
I am new to your blog.
Came here from your Medium.
So you dated so many men,even in Los Angeles...and you must be pretty familiar with hookups scenes and ONSs.
Did they ever feel lonely after that?
Do you ever regret it?
I mean I am not judging you at all.
I am a 21 year old male and all new to this and thought to myself one day that before I get married,which is far away in the future,I should experience life and express my sexuality on my terms.
I made up my mind that I should be the one to live my life how I want and not what is "expected" of me.
Also what is attractive to women in men on Tinder??
The reason I am asking this to you is because you use it regularly and would know much better than those men who give "dating advice" but never seen them do the stuff.
Thanks so much for getting in touch, Yash. I definitely felt lonely after dating a lot. I am familiar with hookups and ONSs. While I found them to be really fun at first, they got very old for me.
I will be writing about this soon, so I'll let you know. I wouldn't say I ever regretted anything I did--not morally speaking, at least. But I did sometimes regret having a bad experience with someone. But there's really nothing I could do about that.
Getting out there and having experiences regardless if they're good or bad is about taking risks. You have to take risks to date people. You have to accept that not everyone you meet is going to be a great person--or great for you. That's just life. Sometimes you may feel regret about an experience, but just embrace it. It happened for a reason: to make you grow.
I definitely think you should experience yourself and your sexuality on your own terms. As a guy, you should always be honest with women though. Don't ever lead a woman on, who thinks you want something more, but you just want sex. There's nothing wrong with only being in it for the sex. Just make sure everyone is on the same page about that.
I always found a big smile was attractive to me in a man. I wanted to make sure a guy was happy. Good hygiene is also really important. A man who's stylish and himself is also attractive. But what is "being yourself." It takes time to figure out who we are, and balls to be different. Give yourself the time and space to figure yourself out and don't beat yourself up for making mistakes. You will, so just accept your flawless self as you are. Women will love you for that.
First of all thanks a lot Ms.Elle for your time and warm words.🙂
Now,you rightly said about taking risks.
I'll have to wear my heart on my sleeve and be vulnerable to make things happen.
Regarding my sexuality,yes,I do think of doing it on my own terms.
Maybe if I get a girlfriend soon then of course sexually exploring each other would be good.
But of course that shouldn't be the basis of my relationship.
I think that you live in NYC(maybe I read that on your Medium I guess) and NYC,as is the capital of the world,is synonymous with Tinder style dating.
I do want to live my sexual desires whenever I visit NYC once.
If you don't mind me asking,have you ever had an FWB arrangement!?
I am asking you this because I cannot write that on my bio right?
It just happens..because friends first,fuck buddies second.
.
Also,before I leave Ms.Elle I wanted to share with you that no one knows.
This is extremely personal.
Well not now.
I have that innate desire of mentally and sexually satisfying women who are unhappy in their lives/relationships(NO not make them cheat) etc etc
How do I make them comfortable?
I want them to have a good time with me...not just a date but being vulnerable and reveal her beautiful soul...without any shame/guilt/"what will he think" etc.
Seeing that happiness on a woman's face would feel so good.
That is what I want to do as of now.
Maybe it sounds stupid but this is what I am thinking right now.