My Husband And I Tried To Have An Open Marriage. It Epically Failed.

And more news from In Vain Asylum

Hi there, it’s me, Elle Silver! I wanted to let you know about my first collaboration with Your Tango with my article My Husband And I Tried To Have An Open Marriage. It Epically Failed.

Here’s a teaser:

In the beginning, I was ecstatic about having an open relationship. I could date other men and not have to lie about it. I felt incredibly relieved by this. 

I remember making a date to meet with a man and telling my husband. He wasn’t even angry about it. This was awesome!

I met up with the guy and the date went well. I ended up going home with him. It was bizarre to text my husband to let him know that I wouldn’t be home that night and to put the kids to bed himself.

Yup, I was actually letting my husband know that I was going to have sex with another man. It felt insane to do this, but it also filled me with happiness. 

I was free! Only I wasn’t.

I was still married and the truth was, I really wanted a divorce.

If you’ve ever considered having an open marriage, please read the full article here. I’m not saying you’ll have my exact experience. As I wrote above, I really just wanted to be out of my marriage.

More news from In Vain Asylum

Photo by Danielle Reese.

I also wanted to let you know that I’ve opened up In Vain Asylum to other writers. Michelle Brown has published a few great essays there that you might have missed such as:

How To Stop Being Afraid of Your Own Sex Life.

Why I Stopped Feeling So Threatened By Porn.

I’ll be sharing more about my own views on these subjects soon, but in the meantime, you can read Brown’s takes here.

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In case you’ve been wondering why I’ve been publishing less lately on Medium, I’ve been writing a lot for Newsbreak. There I publish my social commentary and Los Angeles-based content. If you like my writing on Medium, you may also like my writing on Newsbreak.

That said, writing is a hard job. It takes hours for me to put together my articles. This is why I also have a donations page where you can buy me a coffee. Every dollar of your support helps me to continue to create great content.

Thanks for reading. Until the next time!

—Elle